Managing Time: Say No to Demands

Managing Time: Say No to Demands
By Yara Nielsenshultz

Persistent Demands

Everyone faces demands on their time. Some of those are legitimate. We all have responsibilities to fulfill. The problem starts when we begin to value other people's responsibilities more than our own time.

How does this happen? First, many people, particularly women, let their desire to be helpful outweigh their own priorities and needs. Second, people often fear they won't be liked or they'll be viewed as selfish or lazy if they say No. Third, some people fear that saying No will lead to confrontation, and they don't want to disappoint their colleagues/friends/family.

The Guilt Complex

When people do say 'No to demands on their time, the Guilt Complex can rear up, leaving them feeling unsure, selfish, and depressed. Unfortunately, many people play on this guilt complex to passively influence you to say Yes to demands on your time. As a result, you can become conditioned to say Yes until you find that you have no time left for yourself.

Value Your Time

No one is going to value your time until YOU do. Agreeing to other people's requests for your time devalues your time and emphasizes theirs. When faced with a request, ask yourself:

• Will fulfilling this request energize me or deplete me?
• Is the time I give to this request more important than the time I can give to myself?
• Is fear (or guilt or another negative emotion) influencing my decision to accept this request?
• How many other requests for my time have I accepted this week or month?
• How much time do I have for myself this week or month? Will accepting this request take that time from me (or other, more important, people)?

3 Steps to Get Started Today

Stop saying Yes automatically. Pay attention to what you're feeling when faced with a request for your time and honor those feelings.

Take time to consider whether each request forces you to sacrifice time better spent elsewhere. YOU control your time -- make your choices wisely.

Stop feeling guilty. You have every right to control your time -- it's YOUR time and it's valuable.

If you practice these steps consistently, you'll start to escape feeling overwhelmed and stressed. And as you begin to honor your feelings and value your time, you'll begin to feel a renewed energy.

Yara Nielsenshultz of Living Forward Coaching helps working moms find guilt-free time for themselves by helping them create, nurture, and implement an inspiring vision for who they want to be. Yara brings a unique perspective to coaching, encouraging clients to foster a Deliberate Imbalance(TM). Learn more at http://www.livingforwardcoaching.com/deliberate.html

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